How 7 years of marriage....
faithful wife...
did everything in my power to make him happy
fulfill his needs...
nursed him thru 2 and 1/2 months of recovery from major surgery..
signed over all of my tax refund to pay off his back child support...
put up with his abusive words...
his hateful, negative words...
and yet there were good times..
one night, we argue, I give him the chance to go...he begs to stay, tells me all these pretty promises...
and the next day, he moves in with a very good friend of ours, and less than a week later, they are 'engaged"...

She is rich, threw away all of his stuff from our home, and bought him new everything. He is living high, driving a new car, wearing all new clothes, everything his heart desires...

Not one call from him to see if I am ok...do I need anything..
I lost my car, my job, no way to get there without a car.
Had to go to salvation army for food for my kids...
lights and water are about to be shut off...He wont even answere my calls, won't even speak to me~ and I did NOTHING to him...nothing..

and he prospers....
he was unfaithful, he cheated, she is committing adultry with him, and yet her business prospers,,no booms....money to burn, and they talk about me like trash, wont let my step daughter talk to me....
I go to a restaraunt, they come in, I have to leave, I go to walmart, they come in, I leave.

how does this happen overnight? I have believed she has had a thing for him in the past, but he hated her. hated her with a passion when he worked for her. This really did, occur overnight literally, and he moved from my bed to hers in one day.

I could not have meant anything to him, he threw me away like yesterdays trash, i worked for her for years, a faithful employee, never harmed her in any way...

and I sit here with everything slipping away, while they party and spend like theres no tomorrow. I beg for food and help with payments, he begs for nothing. And I did nothing wrong.

All I want from God is to understand how this works. I am the laughingstock of our community, how stupid can I be? If it werent for my children, I truly am afraid of what I might do, but, I love them too much to ever....

I have prayed for hours and hours and hours of sleepless nights, trying to pray away the vengeful thoughts, the hate, the pain, begged of God for a spirit of forgiveness, for Him to PLEASE let me forgive them, so I can carry on, without this weight of hatred and vengefulness. He has helped me with that, but the hurt and disgrace is still there.
And still he prospers.....WHY~ I just CANNOT understand..

Wow That sounds REALLY tough. Praying for you. Probably only God knows all the reasons why things happen. I wish I had all the answers. All I know that is you may be trash to that man but you are a treasure to God. You may "have nothing" but you have a home awaiting you in heaven that is more incredible than any house or mansion on this earth. You may be eating from food banks but soon you will eat from that table in heaven that is miles long with every kind of food to enjoy that God has created. God has a plan for your life!

I'm very sorry to hear of all of those terrible problems in your life. It sounds like a true horror story, worse than anything I can imagine. I'll certainly be remembering you in my prayers, and I know for sure that our God answers them.

You do not mention when these things happened. I take it that it was all in the last 4 or 5 months.

It sounds like your husband was not a Christian, at least a practicing one, is that right?

Based on what you say, I tend to think that you are actually fortunate be rid of this guy. The only solution is a genuine conversion. If he treated you this way, it is almost certain that it won't be very long before he treats his present "wife" the same way.

It is extremely rare for all this kind of thing to happen without his ever giving any kind of indication of serious problems. It may be that there were things that you did not pick up on or see. But it is too late now to look back on those issues. However, it may be something to consider in your future relationships.

Be sure to let us know of any further problems you need prayer about and also keep us up to date about how God is answering prayers for your situation.

I'll especially pray that God will come close to you and heal your bad feelings and anger towards him so you can move on in your life. We can be certain that He will positively answer this prayer.

Thank you both for your kind words.

This occurred one month ago yesterday. He had only gone back to work for one day after being comepletely bed bound after a very serious surgery for 2 and 1/2 months.

He claims to be a Baptist, but not a practicing one and he mostly only scoffed and made fun of basically any religion, but especially Adventists, because he knew I was raised one. I finally got smart and acted like it didn't bother me at all and he pretty much stopped.
We have been having problems for a long time, mostly about his lack of enthusiasm, lack of keeping steady work, and his general negative attitude.
The only thing is, that when we met and he moved up here, after he had been here about a week...(I was running group homes for the mentally handicapped and sex offenders, which I trained him to do, and he ran the home next door until after we got married) One day he came over to help me fix breakfast for my residents, and ..well to make a long story short, one of my residents had committed suicide overnight.
I truly believe that God meant for him to be t here with me. He was SO supportive, thru the police investigation and DSS investigation, thru the family telling me that "I" did this to her.....I would have lost my mind that day had he n ot been there and he was there, every single second he was there for me.
But the years together have been tough, there were myriad problems, but I thought we woud get thru it together. But she was able to BUY him just like that over night.
Its not even that we separated, I was ready for that. It is the way he did it ...using our friends, and now refusing to even talk to me like I am some kind of cancer.
He did call me a couple of weeks ago, to ask if I would lie and sign that we had been separated for a year, so he could get the divorce and that he would give me two thousand if I would.
I talked with a lawyer, who told me whatever I did, not to do that. He also told me that I have a winnable case against HER for alienation of affection, and that he could win my case for me even if I did lie and sign his paper, because he is basically blackmailing me with money that he knows I desperately need.
But all for the low low price of 5 thousand down. Hah, if I had that, I wouldnt be losing my mind over the bills right now.
But it is for the best in the long run, and I just keep praying all day and night for relief and release and forgiveness, and the power to let this pain go.....I can't sleep, I am sick to my stomach all the time, I am turning to my pain pills, which is very quickly becoming a problem, but I dont know how else to cope. Please pray for me. please...

Dear God, I am so afraid of what I am about to do. I have been clean for soooo very long. I've placed the order, it's on it's way...Lord please don't let me to this.
I don't think I can overcome it again. If I fall tonight, I won't get up...

Is anyone here? Please talk me down from this, I'm so afraid!! Pray for me please...

Feel free to send me a private email, sister.


gcw

Praying for you Cbax!!